arXiv:2611.08565v1 Announce Type: new Abstract: Adolescents increasingly use social media for private conversations, sharing experiences and seeking support. These interactions generate digital traces, prompting efforts to infer mental health and psychosocial states. As large language models become more capable of reasoning about conversations and interpersonal dynamics, a fundamental question remains nonetheless: what can models actually "know" about an individual's psychological experience from what they are able to "see"? We evaluated ten reasoning LLMs using donated Instagram Direct Messages from 80 adolescents with a history of depression or suicidal thoughts and behaviors, comparing predictions with self-reports and analyzing 204 reasoning traces. Models performed better when inferring more observable states than participants' subjective appraisals of social experience, such as perceived social support. Beyond prediction accuracy, our findings highlight the epistemic limits of digital traces for AI design and evaluation: what can be observed, what can reasonably be inferred, and what requires people's own accounts.